It’s not you. It’s the system.

I want to be clear about something…

If you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of exhaustion, overload, temporary relief, and then right back into the same patterns again — it doesn’t mean you’re doing healing “wrong.”

It’s not you. It’s the system.

The truth is, the structures we live in are designed to keep us here.

Capitalism, individualism, corporate greed, governments more invested in the economy than in people’s wellbeing — they all benefit from us being drained, compliant, and too tired to question.

From an early age we’re conditioned to hand over our power. To measure our worth by productivity. To push ourselves beyond our humanity just to survive, let alone “succeed.”

So no wonder so many of us feel stuck in cycles. Meeting our basic needs is hard enough, before you even add the pressure to excel, achieve, never fail, never rest.

This isn’t about blaming individuals for not doing enough inner work. It’s about naming that the deeper cause is systemic.

And that awareness belongs to both sides of the healing space — the people seeking care and those of us offering it.

And yet…

Even within broken systems, we can choose small acts of resistance: reclaiming our humanity, sharing responsibility in community, refusing to measure our worth by output alone.

Healing isn’t about making us more productive cogs.

It’s about remembering who we are, beneath all the conditioning.

As clients and facilitators, what would shift if we stopped asking “what’s wrong with me?” and started asking “what’s wrong with the system?”